3 Life Lessons Your Loneliness Can Teach You

Sometimes we have to deal with loneliness, whether we like it or not. It is life, and life does not ask us if sometimes want to be lonely or not - but life can teach us some valuable lessons in such circumstances. In this post you will find out about the lessons you can only learn in your loneliness.

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Loneliness is the human condition. Cultivate it. The way it tunnels into you allows your soul room to grow. Never expect to outgrow loneliness. Never hope to find people who will understand you, someone to fill that space. An intelligent, sensitive person is the exception, the very great exception. If you expect to find people who will understand you, you will grow murderous with disappointment. The best you'll ever do is to understand yourself, know what it is that you want, and not let the cattle stand in your way.”
― Janet Fitch, White Oleander 

​1. Nothing happens by accident
Things that seem random in your life are there to make you realize that no matter how much you plan your life ahead there will always be something that you won’t be able to plan because you can’t fully understand all the causes and consequences that happen to you.

There is not one ready-made pattern or recipe that you can live by because every individual in this world is unique and unique are the circumstances in which it occurs.

2. You do not owe anyone explanations and justifications for your life
​You do not owe anyone an explanation why you want to develop as a person, why you want others to respect you, why you give all the necessary attention and time to your priorities, why you care about the people around you and many other things. It is all your right as well and it is your decision with whom you will share those most intimate moments of yours. It’s your attitude of caution because you don’t want to let someone step on your most sacred things and make fun of them. You understand how life works and from now on you will do things your way.

3. Don’t waste your time on people who don’t deserve it
Don’t waste your life on people who served more as a lesson to you than a collection of fond memories. In other words, the people who have hurt you in any way.

​“All of humanity’s problems stem from man’s inability to sit quietly in a room alone.”

Do not waste your life on those who want you to renounce your beliefs in order to conform to theirs. ​Don’t waste your life, or words, or attention on those who put you at the bottom of their list of priorities while you put them at the very top of yours.  Do not risk being left alone again.