Women are special creatures that skillfully combine fragility and strength, tenderness and rudeness, softness and rigidity. But all this is possible only thanks to the powerful energy - female power. But, its level can decrease if you waste it on unworthy things.
“Envy is the enemy of the happy,” said Epictetus, an ancient Greek stoic philosopher. In addition, wasting energy on observing someone else's life, you are depriving yourself of the opportunity to get vivid impressions of your own. If there is something in the life of another person that you would like to have - do not envy them, but rejoice at their success, wish them even greater success and proceed with the implementation of the plan that will lead you to the desired result.
It is possible that during the implementation of your plan, your goal will change, but you will live your life and be happy because you will cease to be dependent. All your attention will be directed only to your life, which will fill you with energy and make you happier.
Even when having good results, we tend to strive for more, wishing to prove ourselves even better. And this is the correct course of events - we accept the result, but we know that we can do better and what we should do next. But belittling is another matter.
Self-doubt and self-dislike, the companions of this bad habit, overshadow our perspective making us think that we did not achieve anything even when we do have a good result. But an even greater evil is the belittling the merits and achievements of others, which is a direct consequence of envy. Get rid of the habit of discrediting others and concentrate on your life, analyze the causes of self-doubt and start working on accepting yourself and your successes.
The desire to achieve everything
Women, especially mothers, are constantly in the “search of new deeds.” They need to put the house in order, go to the store, meet with friends, spend time with their family and they can hardly find time for themselves. And this happens every day.
But an endless list of “important to-do” things compiled every day will not bring happiness, but will only lead to burnout and poor results in all areas. Therefore, use the ability of multitasking only in special cases and make sure to completely recover yourself by spending more time in nature, being alone with yourself, practicing yoga, mindfulness and meditation, etc.
By diminishing your virtues, you make yourself weaker. All this happens due to a lack of faith in oneself and dependence on the opinions of others, as well as due to the desire to do everything by putting overly high demands on oneself.
It is not bad to possess these qualities, the main thing is to know the limit. Ask yourself, do you need to be in a constant race with your own standards? Do they relate to you and do you really need them? Answer these questions honestly, it is possible that they are imposed on you by others, and keep in mind that self-humiliation and self-criticism are too harsh and completely inappropriate.
Public opinion plays a large role in a woman's acceptance of herself, as her actions and behavior have been controlled for a long time. And one of his instruments was silence. But times have changed, you have a voice and opportunities to express yourself. Forget about the phrase “I’m a woman, I’m not supposed to do this” and boldly go ahead.
It is in your power to make yourself happy by properly distributing energy, and as Stephen Fry said: “Stop feeling sorry for yourself and you will be happy.”
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