Kindness is a rare quality, and the hearts of those who possess it are marked by deep empathy.
According to the research conducted by Leslie University, empathy increases a person's inclination to help others and show compassion, and is an essential element of morality, prompting them to follow the Golden Rule, that is, to always put themselves in the place of another person.
This means that compassionate individuals tend to be kinder. And since they tend to feel emotions on a deeper level, they suffer more...
1. Good people don't want others to suffer
Good people would rather suffer themselves than see others suffer. It's a natural response to being able to protect loved ones. And it also means that you're willing to take over their suffering on yourself.
Needless to say, the pain felt, even in case of a stranger, hurts the heart, but you do not complain because that is your nature. You will tolerate the pain yourself, not letting anyone else tolerate it.
2. Good people feel others' pain
The peculiarity of kindness and empathy is that you can look at a situation through the eyes of another person and understand their feelings. Even if you are experiencing the pain yourself, you still understand its intensity and depth.
Oddly enough, you feel someone else's pain as if it were your own, because you simply cannot treat it differently. And that's the double burden of suffering that beats right into your heart.
3. Good people are not vindictive
What happens when someone hurts you? First reaction: you want to retaliate. Revenge is what drives a lot of people and that's what good people are trying to avoid. They are not consumed by the desire for revenge. They are even willing to forgive the one who hurt them because they can't keep so much negativity in their hearts
Good people don't think about revenge or making others suffer. These individuals prefer to withdraw and focus on their own lives rather than seek revenge.
4. Good people suffer in silence
Good people believe in the possibility of sharing someone else's burden, but ironically, they do not share their own burdens with anyone. They consider their own suffering only their own, but are not hesitant to plunge into solving other people's problems.
In fact, this isolation means that this person will suffer longer and harder, without saying a word about it to anyone. Good people are not looking for support, and do not want to involve someone from outside in their problems. This prevents them from releasing their accumulated emotions, which keeps the pain going on inside of them, penetrating deeper and deeper.
5. Good people know how to give
If there is a good person in your life, then you have already understood how lucky you are. This is the kind of person who is used to giving without demanding anything in return. They're ready to give everything to you with a smile on their faces.. This kind of behaviour often makes them vulnerable, and some people around them may take advantage of this kindness.
And sometimes good people have nothing left but a deep sense of loss, because the world is full of people who take this kindness for granted, use good people and subsequently reject them. But a good man does not want revenge. He suffers, but remains faithful to his heart.
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