Fear is not negative by itself. It protects us from possible threats and sometimes, helps us to be more thorough and dedicated in those we do. However, it is also a reality that sometimes invades the corners of existence, without our perceiving it. Simply, suddenly you discover that fear is dominating your life.
To be frank, not everyone is aware of this. Sometimes fear is dominating your life, but you do not hear about it . The fear is one of those realities that often masquerades, disguises itself to go unnoticed and to continue to exercise control mode. That's why it's sometimes so complex to identify it.
When fear is dominating your life, you may just feel that you are not moving forward or that things are not working. You do not achieve your goals and discomfort predominates, but still you do not discover that you are being surrounded by fear. The following signs will help you identify if your life is invaded by fear or not. Prepared?
The perfectionism end is not a virtue, especially if it is accompanied by intolerance and anxiety . Instead of making yourself better or helping you get better results, many times it simply leads you to not enjoy anything.
When perfectionism torments you, it can be considered as a sign that fear is dominating your life. It is possible that deep down you do not want to make things better, but you are afraid of not being good enough or even being rejected by others. Maybe you also fear error.
You do not take any risks
This is an unmistakable sign that fear is dominating your life. To avoid risks at all costs is to stop living . It is an attitude that only leads to severe stagnation and, sooner or later, to the feeling that life is boring or bland.
If you want to feel safe all the time, you will end up reducing the number of experiences to a minimum. The absence of risk is a fantasy, because it will always be there. What happens is that you are afraid of not being able and that is why you seek to create comfort zones and settle in them forever.
Postponing things - a sign that fear is dominating your life
Fear is one of the reasons why many issues are postponed indefinitely. You leave for later because you fear reaching that point where you have to take action . Fear prevents you from moving towards the realization of your tasks and objectives.
Courage is not something that appears before doing the things that require courage. Rather it is a reality that is built to the extent that we dare to act and move forward in that purpose. Postponing and leaving things for later, often, only leads to fear grows more and more, until it becomes impossible to overcome it .
Desire to control everything
The desire to control everything is a clear sign of insecurity. And insecurity is nothing more than fear of being , of expressing oneself fully, of assuming oneself with all the mistakes and successes that accompany us. Trying to have everything under control, paradoxically, is to let fear control our lives.
Uncertainty is a constant in life. Actually, nothing is totally under control. There are too many forces that escape our will, our desire. Being flexible and adaptable is a sign of realism and strength . Also of humility. The desire to control everything is a sure path to anguish.
Repression to speak
When speaking of repression to speak we do not mean difficulties to make great speeches or conferences. There are people who are reluctant to say what they think or feel. And they do it out of fear. Fear of the reaction of others, fear of compromising with their words or fear of reaffirming themselves.
Not saying what you think and feel is equivalent to self-annulment. Who renounces his word, renounces his being. He also renounces his freedom , which is thought and expression. The fear of speaking leads to invisibility, to symbolic death.
There is no other way to overcome the fears that confront them. It is not about you exposing yourself recklessly to what scares you. It means that it is worth undertaking a process that leads to recover the strength that is in you . If fear is dominating your life, it is time for you to do something to master it.
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