Being Wise Means Knowing How To Ignore Intelligently

​The wise person is not the one who accumulates a lot of knowledge or experience, but the one who knows how to use effectively everything they have learned  and who are able to ignore useless things, which do not allow them to grow to improve  as a person.

A wise person is the one who can distinguish between the burden and that which gives them energy.

​To live, after all, also means to know how to economize and understand the priorities. It seems that most of us do not apply this simple rule: according to a study conducted by Harvard University,  people have the surprising ability to focus attention on things "that are not happening". We worry about unimportant things, undermining our ability to be happy in the "here and now".
The first rule of life indicates that the wisest people are those who know how to be happy and who are able to eliminate from their lives everything that harms them and that is not useful.

The art of knowing how to ignore is not easy to implement in our daily lives. This happens because  ignoring implies in many cases getting away from certain situations or even certain people. We are faced with an act of pure courage, which is always preceded by an intelligent choice. We invite you to reflect on it.

To ignore is to learn to choose priorities
Being happy is the art of personal choice. We may be happy in certain circumstances in life, but most of the time it will depend on ourselves: on the decisions we make. For this reason, it is necessary to acquire a perspective that is not only more positive, but also more realistic, where self-awareness  and self-esteem will always be fundamental.
Life is too short to feed on bitterness and frustration: release your tears, ignore criticism and surround yourself with people who are important to you and who care about you.

How to learn to prioritize
In order to learn to prioritize, it is necessary to give everything around us its true value.  To do this, we must stick to the following points.

• If we think it is a burden to decide between important and unimportant things, it is because of an internal conflict between what we want and what we know is not convenient. In addition, we are afraid of "being hurt", "hurting" or even acting differently than others' expectations if we dare to break bonds.

• With a higher level of stress and anxiety, we would have difficulty setting priorities. For this, you should reflect on situations and people who hold a real value to you, and you should do this only in moments of calmness, when you will be more concentrated and relaxed.​

• Think about the things that are important to you and not to others,  do not fear external criticism or what they will think about the decisions you want to make.​
• You have to understand that giving priority does not only mean ignoring the things that hurt us, but also reorganizing our lives to find personal spaces in which to be happy.

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Ignoring certain people is also healthy
According to an interesting work published in the magazine Livescience,  the personal relationships that cause us stress or suffering affect our mental health. There is  an increase in blood cortisol and blood pressure, to the point where you run the risk of suffering from serious heart problems. It's not worth it.

Learn to ignore those who don't give you anything
It is not a question of bad manners  nor ultimatum or blackmail. Knowing how to ignore is an art that can be achieved with elegance and without reaching out for unnecessary extreme means. You should keep these things in mind:

• Don't worry about the things you can't change: accept that a family member will continue to have that closed attitude, that your colleague will always continue to intrude. Stop accumulating negative emotions like anger or frustration and just accept them for what they are.

• Ignore external criticism and increase self-confidence. It is possible that when you decide to distance yourself from those who do not interest you, you will experience criticism. You understand that criticism does not define you, it is not you. Strengthen your self-esteem and enjoy every step towards freedom, away from those who hurt you.  It is a personal triumph.

• When external help is motivated by interest: it is important to learn to recognize those acts of fake altruism. There are people who continually repeat:  "I do everything for you, you are my priority",  when, in reality, the balance of that relationship always tilts to one side, and it is not yours. It never exists in balance.​

• Learn to recognize real friends. In life you'll have to deal with "people" and not accumulate "people", so  choose your priorities smartly: be free from irritation, anger , frustration  and above all from people who, instead of bringing you joy, only bring pain and suffering.​

The art of being wise lies in understanding what to ignore, what to give attention to, and how to say "no" to those who have never bothered to say "yes" to you.