Breakups are always painful, especially if you have to leave behind someone you loved and then lost.
The main thing to remember is that when one door closes, another door opens. That is life. Therefore, if you had to break up with the person who did not suit you, then it is possible that a meeting with someone else more suitable is ahead.
Of course, there is a specific reason why the two of you met and were together. As well as why this or that person was or is present in your life. The reason is often very simple: all of these people come to teach us something that should make us more mature individuals.
Unfortunately, such lessons have a rather high price, because they always end sadly and painfully. Love can both lift us up to heavens and make us suffer hellishly. There is little that can compare to the feeling when you give a person your heart and soul, and he does not want to do the same.
Rumi wrote: "A wound is a place where the light enters."
However, a painful separation can be a stepping stone to finding eternal love, the one meant for you. This love can illuminate even the darkest moments in life with its radiance and give us a sense of fulfillment, happiness and self-confidence.
However, finding your true love , as a rule, is possible only after a person loses the one which was not true, because they initially did not pay attention to red flags, and their heart ended up being broken into millions of particles when everything collapsed.
This can happen to each one of us - and actually has happened. And all of it because we were in relationships with someone who did not suit us. We fall in love because we are are seeking love and passion, but have not yet learned the lessons that we should have learned before meeting our real soul mate.
Change is always difficult and painful, but it only becomes possible after we find ourselves face to face with our regrets. Or (most productively) when we are faced with a terrible mistake and a painful break-up with someone we think was supposed to be our life partner. It doesn't matter that we wanted this love to last forever, the only reason we really needed it was to hit our hearts and teach the right lessons.
Thus, one cannot talk about a mistake as such. It was not the mistake, it was the wrong choice that helped us learn more about who we are and how we understand or perceive love. This is a way to learn to distinguish between good and evil in relationships. We saw how it turned out. We did our best to fix this and next time determine if we were on the right track or not.
And no, we shouldn't blame ourselves for our loyalty and honesty in a relationship that turned out to be a disaster. Sooner or later our mistakes will end, and this ending will be bitter and sad. But this is precisely their goal - to shake us to the depths of our souls, forcing us to doubt our feelings and beliefs and guide us on the right path to finding our true love. The love of our lifetime. Our soul mate and life partner. That special person meant only for us.
Someone who will always be there and will love us for who we are. Someone with whom we can share our lives. And we must be ready for this person to appear. To help them understand if they are really the one.
Therefore, if you do not know what you really want in a relationship, then you will always dislike something about it. And not because you do not deserve love, but because you still need more experience to understand what kind of relationship can be called good and healthy. You are maybe not sure what kind of partner you need.
After all, love is not a fairy tale. You must understand which things are acceptable for you and which are not. And you should also be aware of the fact that someone should be next to you, should always give you support and help you enjoy this life to the fullest.
To get what you want, you need to change your life and find what you like best. And this is impossible without mistakes. This is the only way to understand who you are and what you want from your partner. What do you expect from them and what you yourself are ready to give.
Do not try to guess what the other person wants; do not try to live up to someone else's standards until your own needs are met.
Very often, the right person appears in our life after we have parted ways with someone. After we stop striving to be someone else. And this love can be very different from the one we felt before.
This type of love can appear imperceptibly and even unexpectedly under the guise of friendship or as a passionate romance. But regardless of its form, we must be able to recognize it. Our past mistakes will help us understand whether the new love will be the true love.
Therefore, do not get upset and lose hope if you still have not found the one you are looking for. This means that it is still not the right time to meet the right partner. Just accept things as they are, good or bad. You should learn from your mistakes without regretting anything.
Words of wisdom from Joan Rivers: “When something happens, I just enjoy life. And I don't care if it's good or bad. After all, they all mean that I live. "
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