Every New Stage In Life Is Followed By A Crisis

​When people are not going through a crisis they have the illusion that they can keep their lives intact. The same connections, the same faces, the same level. But a crisis is always a change. First of all, change is not easy, it is difficult. Otherwise, it wouldn't be a crisis.

Every transition to a new stage in life is followed by a crisis. One way or another. Authenticity is paid for by feelings of shame. The exit from a co-dependent relationship is paid for by emptiness. Birth is paid for by pain. Closeness is paid for by compromises. Liberty by loneliness. And list goes on.

A crisis is always a change
If a person lags behind in a role that has exhausted itself, he or she begins to slowly slip into emotional bankruptcy. He no longer has the strength, no motive, no interest. There's a lot of people around. Mothers who talk to teenagers like they're two years old. Directors spitting on reports. Thirty-year-old nymphs. Eternal students, good husbands...

The longer you linger in the exhausted role, the more you become an already "seen" character, a copy of a copy, a predictable replicas whose steps are like prescribed. The directors go bankrupt, nymphs are seduced, mothers are accused, and so on.

What else can I say? We have to sum up the morality in the end, but there is no truth in it when your own crisis is standing in front of you like a big dark-water lake, in which you have to dive entirely without knowing if you will have enough air. To be ready to sink without touching the bottom. Or punch it with your own head, coming out the other side. To be ready for your own unpreparedness.
 
Every new stage in our lives is paid for by the crisis...

When not in crisis, people have the illusion that they can keep their lives intact. The same connections, the same faces, the same "level of the game". But a crisis is always a change. First of all, it is not easy, it is difficult. Otherwise, it wouldn't be a crisis.

Sooner or later, you'll have to sign in to it. You will have to pay with your time, your strength, and ultimately your life. One way or another.