Forgive your parents for their emotional deficiencies or the poor quality time they have dedicated to you, for all the pain they have caused you, sometimes, mistreating you ... after all, they have done what they could.
Even now you may be suffering the consequences of your parents' actions, which hurt you, which make you feel grudges, however, if you think about it, your parents have done their best and maybe you too, in their place - with the their wealth of experience and in their situation - you would have done the same.
They have not been able to do better, because no one has taught them to play that important role that they have decided to adopt. We know that perhaps you have happened to think of that famous phrase: "They could have avoided giving me birth, then!". It is not right, however, to have these thoughts: your parents do not deserve to listen to these words. Put yourself in their shoes: how would you feel if your child said these words to you? And all this just for not knowing how to do better ...
Forgiving your parents will help you forgive yourself when you make the same mistakes in any other area. Forgive your parents because, even if you don't believe it, there is something positive about their mistakes. And do you know what we are talking about here? That you, being aware of their mistakes, can now behave differently, take another path and do things much better. However, if your heart is filled with rage, you will in the end repeat their mistakes or make worse ones, perhaps without realizing it .
Over the years, the anger towards parents who have not been able to do their best intensifies, until it becomes a very heavy and bitter load to bear. Often, we don't know the reason, yet we can't find true happiness. The fact is, there is something that we don't want to see or heal.
Our pride sometimes prevents us from taking the first step towards forgiveness, and we wait other people's apologies. But why prolong and strengthen this suffering? Our happiness is at stake, it is our responsibility to choose the way forward. We are no longer small children, we are no longer at the mercy of our parents.
Now we are adults, we should try to take the first step, without expecting parents to do it for us. This does not mean giving in, it does not mean humbling yourself . And it is probably one of the best decisions we can make, because it will free us from a heavy load that, at times, tends to obscure our whole world.
Perhaps your parents are not aware of all the pain they have caused you, but if there is someone who can draw a lesson from this suffering, it is you! The damage suffered hurts you and prevents you from trusting that there is something positive in all of that. But there really is!
You are the one who decides to see the past from a new perspective or to carry on that weight that will make you take the same steps that you have judged as wrong. If everything in life always went well, how could we learn new things? Curiously, it is precisely the most negative experiences, the ones that most mark us, that give us the best lessons. Those are the ones that help us grow, mature and be better people.
Before, you were only a child who had no way of changing things, but now you are an adult person and you can decide which direction to take. You decide whether to forgive your parents and get rid of that heavy chain that binds you to a long gone past, or whether to continue living with resentment and hatred towards parents who have not been able to do better.
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