The harsh truth is: if someone decides to let the relationship take another course, then you are not as important to them as they are to you.
Each one of us has a moment when we understand that not all people in our life will be in it forever. Friends we made when we were young don't always stay close friends until old age, and that's fine. There are friends from whom we gradually move away, and there are those whom we deliberately leave in the past.
Remember, losing friends isn't necessarily a bad thing and can be just another step forward.
Sometimes this separation is personal, and sometimes it is not. Perhaps you yourself moved away from someone who was dear to you. Everyone has their own path, and therefore we can grow either together or go different ways. Sometimes people close to you remain in your life, because they also chose the path of development. Otherwise, you will begin to move away from them, since your views and values have ceased to coincide. People never stop growing, learning and developing. It is only natural that our priorities change as we age, and these priorities do not always correspond to those of our friends.
Some people come into our lives for a reason and for a while. We learn what we have to learn from them, from life, from circumstances, and then we begin to move on. Perhaps we will meet these people again in the future, but for now the wind blows your sails in completely different directions.
Perhaps there was a quarrel, an argument. Perhaps your friends have hurt you in some way by betraying your trust and love. Typically, the pain of betrayal forces people to end relationships. This pain, like the pain of losing a friend, is real. It is important to remember that the key to healing is forgiveness, which, however, does not always imply the need to forgive the person. When I hear the phrase “forgive and forget”, I perceive it as “forgive and ignore”. It is about ignoring the person who betrayed you, because with your forgiveness you will only show that his actions did not hurt you. Don't neglect yourself for the sake of forgiveness.
The time will come when you will need to get away from people who have never been responsible for the suffering they have caused you. They will no longer ask for forgiveness because it is extremely difficult to correct their mistake. No, they will instead use your kindness and forgiveness to get away from the problem itself. Relationships and friendships take a lot of effort and some people just don't get it. Here's the harsh truth: if someone decides to let the relationship take its course, then you are not as important to him as he is to you.
You have enough strength to clearly move forward with a positive mood, choosing people who also choose you. Therefore, choose those people with whom you can establish a balanced relationship, where the parties give and receive equally. Choose honest people who work on friendship and who care about you. Fight for faithful people who are always ready to support you and return the love. Choose only them and never take your friends for granted.
Say "thank you" to all the friends you lose along the way, by accident or on purpose. Thank them for life lessons and memories that allowed you to move forward in the right direction. For all the suffering caused to you, because the healing of the heart made you stronger and taught you to understand human nature.
Thank them for the opportunity to know and share their lives, even if it all ended so sadly. Thank them for showing their true self and for ending your relationship. Wish them good luck on their journey and continue yours without hiding resentment against anyone. And don't forget that even if you had to forgive them, you still haven't forgotten the lessons you learned.
Thank them for all the good and bad things and say goodbye.
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