Laziness is a lack of determination to perform an action and can affect anyone.
Even if it is not socially well accepted, it can sometimes be useful, especially when there is a heavy task in front of us and our resources are objectively few; in this case, laziness is activated to avoid uselessly wasting of our energies and putting ourselves in an uncomfortable condition.
At other times, laziness can hide a neurotic behavior, a fanatical search for perfection, an internal conflict so strong as to lead to paralysis.
Laziness serves to save energy
At the very base, laziness is a survival mechanism: if our glucose supplies are insufficient, the brain will order us to stop to avoid finding ourselves in a situation of scarcity that could upset the balance and the proper functioning of the whole body.
For example, imagine our nomadic ancestors who had to live through long periods of famine. Instead of going hunting day and night without the certainty of finding food, it was more efficient to wait and save one's strength until the moment they were sure of finding an animal to hunt. This energy saving feature remained anchored in us and serves for the survival of the species.
Although it originally has a useful function, it is also true that times have changed and now laziness often hides much more than a temporary weakness or a scarcity of resources: it often masks fear, is a non-action in order not to take responsibilities, and serves to escape from reality.
Laziness can hide a fear of failure
"THE ONLY MAN WHO NEVER MAKES MISTAKES IS THE MAN WHO NEVER DOES ANYTHING."
Only those who do nothing never make mistakes ... but waste their life! Laziness can mask fear of making mistakes; we think of the worst-case scenario that could happen if we get down to work and often our script is so convincing that we don't even start.
Laziness sometimes hides a perfectionism so extreme as to prefer the sterility of inaction to vital movement: if ultimate perfection becomes an obsession, a neurosis, then human action is considered by its nature as fallible and therefore useless.
It is necessary to keep in mind that perfection is not of this world, it can only remain an ideal towards which to move our attempts but we must remember that even if we can direct ourselves towards it, it will always remain out of our reach, that's why it is important to learn to enjoy our journey, not the "final destination", i.e. until we make something perfect.
Our life already makes sense now, it won't have more sense when we achieve our goal according to our illusory parameters tied to a fanatic perfectionism. Better to live making mistakes than wait for perfection and die without having lived at all.
“THERE IS A DIFFERENCE BETWEEN FIGHTING FOR THE BEST RESULT AND WEARING OUT FOR PERFECTION. THE FIRST ATTITUDE HAS AN ACHIEVABLE GOAL AND IS REWARDING AND HEALTHY; THE SECOND HAS AN UNATTAINABLE GOAL AND IS FRUSTRATING AND A SOURCE OF NEUROSIS. FURTHERMORE, IT INVOLVES AN ABSURD WASTE OF TIME."
Laziness that indicates the conflict between duty and will
Sometimes laziness is the consequence of an internal conflict between what we know how to do and what we would like to do, we cannot make a decision and we get stuck between the two, in an anxious situation that steals our energies, and empties us internally.
In this case it is not a matter of unwillingness, on the contrary, because the willpower to do is equal to the displeasure in carrying out an action that does not suit us, and since the sum of two forces of equal intensity going in opposite direction, you don't get anywhere and you get stuck in total apathy without knowing what to do.
Laziness is not a calm inactivity but an external paralysis that hides an extremely strong inner tension; within us, anxiety increases until it results in psychosomatic disorders: insomnia, migraine, abdominal pain, unexplained exhaustion, etc. In this case, it is necessary to study carefully what blocks us and find a compromise, a meeting ground between duty and pleasure to move from the stalemate.
When laziness becomes a refuge
Laziness is capable of self-feeding; the less we do and the less we want to do , we feel tired although we do not do anything and boredom sticks to our days like a chewing gum thrown on the sidewalk sticks to our shoes during a day of intense heat: it is not easy to get rid of it anymore!
If we follow this trail, we will end up sinking into a limbo, a world of half gray and gloomy, with the danger of having to go through a painful existential crisis. The question is: what drives us to remain imprisoned in that limbo? Often the reason behind this vicious circle is a desire to escape from a reality that we do not like or from which we have little hope of going out, then we build an illusory intermediate world, which requires little effort, at the cost of sacrificing part of our life just to feel sheltered from the pain. We prefer to hide under the sheets instead of going to open the door to the life that knocks outside the door.
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