Love Yourself Enough To Know When To Leave

If there is something that is really difficult to do, it is to understand when you need to get away from a person and turn a relationship with him into a pleasant memory, and not into a despised habit. The ability to say goodbye is not only the art of refusing to suffer, but also the ability to learn.

According to the results of one of the studies, the main reason for our decision to break a relationship is the feeling of inequality between partners, when the level of efforts of each of the parties is different, and the mental pain significantly exceeds the benefits.
There always comes a moment when you simply need to leave, even if you have nowhere to go and there’s not a penny in your pocket. Only in this way will you let your heart know happiness again.

In a true relationship, love and suffering should not go hand in hand. Not all people understand this, and the concept of “romantic love” still makes us believe in such misconceptions. But if you love yourself strong enough, then do not allow yourself to be in that position.
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When parting is the only option
Relationships, like any living organism, are constantly changing. But each of these changes is aimed at strengthening ties between partners and allows us to get to know each other better, without losing our “I”. Relationships should be smooth.
Love is built on freedom of choice. However, sometimes it is one of the main causes of human suffering. 

And before plunging into a state of emotional pain, you need to learn to recognize the very moment when you should say goodbye in order to avoid truly destructive situations.

Here is a list of key aspects that will help you understand that parting is “the only way out”:

• Determine if the problem that caused the current situation has a solution.
• When faced with the crisis, it is very important that both sides make equal efforts to resolve it. Relationships are called unbalanced if one of the partners invests his energy, enthusiasm and makes personal sacrifices, and the other simply accepts all of this without offering anything in return.
• Try to project your current position into the future. Do you think that in 10 years from now you will be happy if everything is still the same?

If after answering these questions you understand that nothing can be done and it is impossible to solve the problem, then you need to gather strength, say goodbye and leave, breaking this closed personal and emotional cycle of suffering.
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What prevents breaking an emotional relationship
In relationships, we tend to cling to certain erroneous beliefs and emotions that (if we are unhappy) prevent us from being objective and adequately assess reality.
Never forget that it is not love that is blind, but the illusions we create.
As a rule, an in art, blindfold and wings on the back always act as symbols of love - the blindfold hides obstacles, but, fortunately, we have wings to overcome them.
Concepts that do not allow us to put an end to relationships are in fact a lot of "commas" that do not preserve relationships at all, but only prolong unnecessary suffering and lower self-esteem. 

This is why it is so important to consider the following things:

• Avoid self-deception, because things do not always happen the way we want. Think about it: you could forgive more than necessary, forgetting about your boundaries, or you too often said “let's start all over again”, although nothing changed after that.
• The other person will not change for your sake. People do not change. It is possible that they simply were not what you thought they were at first. No one can change overnight, no matter how much we would them to.
• There is nothing romantic or heroic in suffering in the name of love. This is one of their forms of self-deception and self-destruction. If you were made to believe that having a partner implies the inevitability of suffering and constant struggle, then you were fooled. Being together means being able to create and love without any pain.
• Do not be afraid of loneliness. According to a study by Brigham Young University of Utah, one of the biggest fears is the fear of being alone. Many people prefer to be in bad company than to be left alone with their own thoughts. But this is wrong.

Love yourself enough to understand when you need to leave. Loneliness is always a better choice than relationships that deprive you of happiness and upset your inner balance.
Love does not imply that you give everything without receiving anything in return. Its essence lies in the realization that you deserve recognition and respect. To be loved and to love yourself is an art and a skill for developing true affection.