Birds born in a cage think flying is an illness.
Freedom. The dictionary says that it is "the condition or right of a being to be able or allowed to do, say, think, etc. whatever they want to, without being controlled or limited".
It seems like something very beautiful, yet one is so afraid of it. What prevents us from being free? From being totally autonomous and emancipated? Fear is certainly the most valid answer for this question.
We are afraid of freedom, we are terrified by it, because it would mean being totally responsible for our choices and actions. We would no longer have a scapegoat, we would no longer be able to complain and blame someone else, if things don't go our way. Freedom is an obligation towards oneself in the first place and we know, human beings do not like obligations.
Ever since we are born, most of us have lived protected from everything. Growing up does not change this fact that much. We build a cage around us and get so used to it that if someone tries to open the door to let us out we push him away with all our strength. We are obviously talking about a metaphorical cage but, nevertheless, it is very real.
Let's take an example. In everyday life we are excessively tied to technology. We can hardly do anything without it. If we go out without a cell phone we start to despair, we also use the car to go a few blocks away. We are prisoners, but we like this prison so much. Thinking of giving up our comforts and living a more carefree life, without social media or electronic devices scares us. It seems impossible.
Do you want another example? The need to live your life according to a socially accepted stereotype. That is: we study, trying to find a good and stable job, get married, have children. Obviously, such life is not wrong. On the contrary, it is good if you want it and feel ready for it. But there are those who do it because "it has always been like that, everybody does it", not out of their real desire. What would other people think if they said they didn't want a family? This is also a cage and, in the long run, one revels in the illusion of being happy when he is actually not.
Many people are so afraid of saying what they really want from life that they give up their freedom in order to conform.
We are afraid of everything: to say our opinion, if it is different from that of others, for fear of being judged. We do not risk for fear of failure. We adapt because we only know this reality. We give up our freedom because, after all, we like our "golden prison cage". We feel protected from the world but, in the end, it's just an illusion.
The cage is solely in our head. Let's try to open the door and get out. How? Nobody can tell you how to stop being afraid. It is only you who have to break down the barriers that you have created for yourself. It is not an easy job and, above all, it is not an operation that requires little time. It is an intense work on oneself.
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