This often happens in life: a person acted badly, meanly and hurt the one who loved them and trusted them. The other went through hellish circles of resentment, acceptance and humility. They had to "reassemble" themselves and learn to live in a new way.
The moment came and they forgot about their ex.
But suddenly that person appears on the horizon again. They confess their feelings and want to return back.
So why do these people return when they no longer have any importance to us, when we have forgotten them, when we have lost interest for them, when we have our own life without them?
1. Thanks to them and the relationship with them, we have learned a very important lesson
We have learned an important lesson. Let it hurt, let it break us and let's move on. We made the necessary conclusions.
We have grown morally, psychologically, socially ... We are now on a new level.
These people, although not very worthy, were our teachers. We learned a particular lesson from them. We passed the test.
The key here is "passed the test" - and this is the past tense. We live here and now, in the present. There is no place for such people in our present.
2. They are now learning their lessons
By the way, it is not yet sure that they will "pass their exam" and be admitted to a new level.
When they hurt us, when we waited for them, when we didn't know what to do and were searching for the answers, we were learning. Now life has changed the roles.
They have a chance to go through a real transformation. But it is their life, their chance. We have every right not to participate in this.
We don't owe them anything
3. When we realize the true state of affairs, then we give ourselves freedom
Freedom - not to return to the past.
Freedom is not burdened with old memories.
Freedom - to live happily and harmoniously here and now.
When you go through different life trials and more than once come across human meanness, betrayal and evil, you become no longer surprised by such "ghosts" returns.
Let them have their lessons. Don't look back. Live at the stage of self-awareness and live a life that you deserve. Don't come down.
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