I know quite a few people who are quite luckier than the average person. In a word, they are those who others enviously call "lucky".
What is their secret? Were they simply born under a lucky star, and we "mortals" should come to terms with this and feel less envy?
Is it possible that the gods smile only at the chosen ones, and we cannot influence this in any way?
Scientists believe that this is not the case.
The most complete study of this issue was carried out by Richard Wiseman, a renowned psychologist and professor at the University of Hertfordshire. In his best-selling book, The Luck Factor, Weisman explains what makes some people luckier than others.
It is not magic nor a fairy tale. Each of us is able to bring more luck into our lives.
After years of interviews and experiments with more than 400 volunteers, Weisman came to a rather unexpected conclusion - in his opinion, we are the creators of our own luck. He also highlighted the basic principles of creating luck. We are all able to become significantly more successful if we want to.
The results of his research proved that luck is not a magical superpower, or, say, the work of a "blind chance". And even more so, it does not happen that someone is born lucky or unlucky.
“Although lucky and unlucky people almost never realize what exactly causes them to be lucky or unlucky, in fact, much of their luck is directly dependent on our own thoughts and behavior,” writes Wiseman.
His research shows that lucky people create their own luck based on these four principles:
His revolutionary work tells us that happiness is always in our hands - if, of course, we are willing to pay attention to these four principles.
Lucky people never miss a chance to socialize
They are not afraid of meeting new people, because they know that new people are always new opportunities, and new opportunities are good.
Wiseman recalls one participant in an experiment who decided that he should break the habit of communicating with the same people at parties, meetings, and so on. Having made a decision, he did the following: before going to an event, he would choose a certain color, and after that he spoke only with people wearing the clothes with that color, even if they were complete strangers to him!
Lucky people tend to be extroverts and enjoy connecting with others and making new connections. When surrounded by other people, they do not limit their social circle to only those people they know. They are ready to chat with anyone.
Lucky people see opportunities where others do not
To discover this ability in lucky people, Weisman conducted a very simple and amusing experiment. He asked the participants to flip through the newspaper and find out how many photographs it contained. It was a simple and a "boring" task of careful counting that, at first glance, had nothing to do with luck.
It took a group of unlucky people about two minutes to count the total number of all the photos ... the lucky people did it in two seconds.
“Yes, because on the second page of the newspaper was the message “Stop counting. There are 43 photos in this newspaper”. This message took up half a page and was printed in huge letters. It was impossible not to notice it, but the unlucky people, as a rule, lost sight of it, and the lucky ones noticed it right away ”, writes Weizman.
But that is not all.
To make the experiment even more interesting, another big message was posted in the middle of the newspaper. It said, "Stop counting, tell the experimenter that you saw this message and you will receive $ 250." Again, no one from the group of unlucky people noticed it because they were too busy looking for photos.
Lucky people practice "counterfactual thinking
"Counterfactual thinking is thinking that goes against the facts. Psychologists often use this term when referring to our ability to imagine what could have happened instead of what happened.
In the case of lucky people, this term means that when something unpleasant happens to them, they interpret the event so that in their view of the world it turns out that they are lucky.
In one of his psychological experiments, Wiseman asked subjects to imagine that they were in one of the situations he described, and observed their reactions.
So, one day he asked them to imagine that they were injured during a bank robbery.
How do you think lucky and unlucky people reacted to such an event? Here's what the researcher says:
“As a rule, unlucky people said that if they got into such trouble, they would think that they were very unlucky, having ended up in a bank during a robbery. Lucky people believed that if in such a situation they got away with just an injury, they would consider themselves lucky, because the alternative could be much worse.
As one member of the lucky group commented, “I would think I was lucky because I could have been killed. I could also write a story and sell it to the newspapers and make some money. "
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