The Advice That Changed My Life

I used to be a very angry person. Extremely angry. Not like any other woman, more like a Kalashnikov rifle, which can shoot with words.  I did not know how to wait. I did not know how to be patient. In tense circumstances, I could not calm down, simply exhale and give myself time to think about what was happening.

In a fit of emotion, I broke many good relations and years of good communication. I would immediately clear the phone book, would block everybody I found objectionable. I would pack my bags and leave immediately, without looking back. I have never looked back.

​But once I was given me invaluable advice. The advice that changed my life.

One of the most important people in my life told me: “The winner is the one who knows how to wait.”
And I began to learn to wait.

​Do not cheat yourself during this hour. Do not poison the soul, but simply wait for an hour to pass. Watch a movie, read a book, talk on the phone.

Just one hour. If you survive that one hour, 99 out of 100 situations will look completely different. And if there is a situation that does not look like this after the hour has elapsed, it’s worth going out with it royally.
“Royally” means calmly and benevolently.

Why am I doing this? Here is an explanation: in a fit of emotion, more often than not, we create and say what we certainly regret later. This will hurt other people, but even worse - it will hurt us most.