We have all had unpleasant moments in life when someone deeply hurt our feelings - betrayal, ridicule, neglect, falsehood. Sometimes people close to us can do this, and then it makes our heart even "harder", which prevents us from moving on and living happier.
Forgiving somebody who has hurt us and letting go of the past without wishing a revenge is definitely one of the most difficult things.
Forgiveness is hard and deep work on oneself, which is necessary for a harmonious and fulfilling life.
Each one of us takes offense in his own way: someone finds a determination to move on, someone isolates himself and goes into deep introspection, someone finds it impossible to forgive completely, to move on and lives attached to the situation and the person.
Our brain remembers the emotionally strong moments of our lives: both positive and negative. But if we accept and release joyful situations with ease, then we tend to âdigestâ troubles for a long time - in conversations with friends, in angry correspondence, in self-pity and deep resentment towards another person.
It is very important to accept and work out feelings such as anger, pain and resentment. This can take a long time and a lot of emotional strength and endurance.
Forgiveness does not lie on the surface - do not be fooled that a strong offense can be easily forgiven. First of all, forgiveness is a choice. And secondly, it is constant monitoring and observation of your emotions, thoughts and actions. It is necessary to "dig" very deeply, but only you are able to correct the consequences of a strong resentment.
You are responsible for forgiving another person, because you are responsible for your own happiness and peace of mind.
âWhat can you do if your soul and it seems impossible that can ever forgive a person and let go of the situation:
1. Understand that forgiveness is possible
âI will never forgive him/herâ should be turned into an opportunity to forgive, but with time. The fact that you are thinking about forgiveness speaks of the first step on the path to it.
2. Accept forgiveness as an opportunity to improve your life
Forgiveness is about controlling emotions and the responsibility that a person takes for their own life. By letting go of the situation, you give a chance to something new in your life - fresh, brighter feelings and the opportunity to rejoice without unpleasant sensations in your soul.
3. Make a list
If you recall all the insults or bad things someone did to you, even those from your childhood - write down on a piece of paper about the people and situations that caused you pain and mental discomfort.
As you compile and read your list, observe your feelings; perhaps it is much easier to let go of an insult than you think. In many situations, your views may change over time, and it may be easier for you to let go of something. Then you can burn this list if you want to.
4. Accept the pain
Pain is what needs to be accepted, no matter how strong and unpleasant it is. Sometimes pain leads to absolute rebirth and spiritual growth. And it makes us stronger. Just think that you are able to forgive a person who has acted badly towards you. Here is where your strength lies.
You could find tremendous power in yourself and your heart to forgive - you are stronger than you think.
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5. Wishing happiness to other people
It is very difficult - not just to forgive, but also wish happiness to the person who offended or hurt you. This is the hardest thing to do.
But when you can wish the person who offended you happiness and even thank them for the situation that led you to your own growth, then you can completely free yourself and let go of the insult.
Forgiveness is necessary, first of all, for your own good. It promotes the development of strong spiritual qualities, such as compassion, kindness, empathy and openness. It makes life much more pleasant and easier to live.
âForgiveness is a huge step forward on the path of our personal growth and happiness.
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