There are people from whom it is easy and pleasant to learn. But for each one of us, at one point in our lives, there comes a cohort of cruel teachers who test our bones for strength.
The one who taught that the world is not obliged to meet your expectations, most likely did not live up to their expectations. The sooner this happened, the more difficult the task. But not his, but yours.
The one who woke you from deep sleep may have done it abruptly.
Not at all like my mother waking me up in kindergarten. If you didn’t hear a calm voice, you experienced it as a loud shock. Losing naivety is worth a lot if you still have life.
The one who showed that others are not like you, most likely remained incomprehensible to you.
The one who broadened your horizons clearly did not fit into your picture of the world.
The one who taught you how to relive pain most likely did not leave you a chance to talk.
The one who taught you to sincerely forgive, most likely did not ask for your forgiveness. Maybe they didn’t even understand why they should apologize.
The one who taught that it’s not worth lying may have deceived you. And probably more than once.
The one who taught you patience was most likely impatient. Or perhaps even unbearable.
The one who taught you to act in good faith most likely acted towards you with mistrust. And the difference became clear.
The one who taught you compassion may have lacked it very much in their life.
The one who pointed out your weaknesses most likely hurt you.
The one who taught you to defend yourself may have hit you first.
The one who taught you how to defend yourself probably hit you very hard.
The one who taught you how to answer questions most likely left many questions unanswered.
The one who became the mirror of your flaws, most likely is the person you did not like at all.
It is useless to ask: “Why?”, Because any “why” may seem to you insufficient if you do not know how deep another person is.
It is difficult to feel, acknowledge and express aloud the gratitude that has emerged from the impossible. It is difficult for the first time, but then everything is simpler. No need to look for difficult and brutal teachers. They themselves will appear when there is a need. All that can be done is to go through a blank wall inside yourself, emerge through the other side of the bottom and transform the pain into strength.
Each one of us, falling on the bottom of our inner hell, survives as best we can. And for someone you will become a cruel teacher; and he may not want it at all. It is upon you to be compassionate towards the limits of another person, to approach them honestly, gradually and with an open heart. And hatred again becomes love, connecting us in the depths, despite different paths and different destinies.
(Author: Aglaya Dateshidze)
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