It doesn’t matter how we came to this world: we’re someone’s children, someone’s friends, someone’s parents, just acquaintances ... Often, if a loved one is in a difficult situation, we consider it our duty to help this person - which is not a really good advice.
Often we do everything the best we can, and as a result our energy leaves us in an incomprehensible way, and it seems like it was wasted. This usually happens when we are trying to interfere with other person's life and try to solve their problems. Why is it absolutely impossible to solve other people's problems?
Unfortunately, we ourselves provoke these events. Only by the fact that we are trying to help. In fact, this behavior is detrimental to both sides. When we give out our energy, out of our best of intentions, we deprive a person of their own strength strength by this support. The person becomes incapable of taking care of themselves and remains to us. The person becomes indebted to us. Sometimes we unconsciously substitute their successes with ours.
How often do we allow ourselves to interrupt each other?
Sometimes a woman in a company interrupts a man, corrects his speech in public, gives advice - these are public manifestations of disrespect.
Speech is energy. Interrupt speech - interrupt the flow of energy. When a woman publicly corrects or interrupts her man, she lowers his status and devalues him. These are blows to his social significance. Thus, a woman is fighting for power. And all this is to the detriment of the strength of both partners and the feeling of closeness between them.
A man interrupting a woman - shows power. Thus, he tries to structure, from his point of view, the unsystematic stream of thoughts.
How often do we interrupt a child speaking or a child's activity?
Adults often do this, without allowing the child to complete his or her movement.
When a child is busy with something, say a game, he or she, unlike adults, is completely immersed in the task. You can compare this with a deep immersion in the right hemisphere. When a child is suddenly interrupted in this way, he or she becomes overloaded, is faced with hysteria and loss of confidence.
Psychologists who work with the body work a lot with incomplete movements.
When we, for some reason, interrupt other people's activity, a blockage forms and many symptoms grow out of it. When we change the activity of a child, we steal his strength. All this is disrespect, which leaves the child feeling "I can’t influence anything!"
When we interfere with our advice, and try to do for a person what they are capable of doing on their own - this is not help - this is disability. And this is not love - this is bribery and an attempt to prove your worth and Ego.
Everyone must carry their own burden, no one can do that instead. If there is a person who wants to take over other person's burden, he makes the one who can solve his problem weak.
When we stop being “kind” towards ourselves and others, the crowd in our environment becomes smaller, and honesty, respect and strength are greater.
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