A broken heart is perhaps the most painful thing that can happen in life. And most of us are of the opinion that only time can heal wounds.
But why do we strive to survive the pain as quickly as possible and often even ignore it? Why do we in every possible way distract ourselves from emotions that can bring us closer to lost loved ones?
Pain is part of our lives. And although many try to avoid pain, it is not at all something bad. Pain helps to discover the best qualities in us and provides us with an opportunity to grow and develop. But only you yourself can decide how to fill the void in your heart with love or fear. This choice may open up new possibilities for you, because even if you don’t understand why you lost something you cared for so much, deep down you realize that new wonderful feelings await you. Thanks to pain, you become deeper.
You may be scared to acknowledge the changes, but by managing them you can gain strength. Admit to yourself that now everything will be different. That you yourself will become different. So you will understand in what directions you can grow and develop. Moreover, both in the short and long term.
Recognize that although you cannot control all that is happening, there are things in the world that are subject to you. For example, your body. If you control your body, it is easier for you to control your mind and feelings. By becoming physically stronger, you become stronger and morally. Try to reach the limit of your physical abilities, so you can change your attitude towards pain.
Recognize that you are also able to give "food" to your mind, either good or bad. You can immerse yourself in the memories of your relationship, playing the painful moment of breaking up again and again. And you can fill the mind with positive information, poetry, spirituality. Use pain to get to know yourself better and to understand what you want from life.
Pain is a signal that you need to pay attention to your inner world. By controlling your physical and emotional state, you are taking the first step towards self-knowledge and development.
Sadness helps us connect with ourselves. The worse we are, the stronger this connection can get. We connect with our emotions, memories and thoughts. Therefore, people are so easily stuck in a feeling of sadness and it is difficult for them to overcome it. We become dependent on this connection with our "I".
The only way out of this state is to search for something else with which you want to establish a connection. In other words, you must find a new meaning in life. Ask yourself, what do you value more than your pain? Maybe helping other people Maybe helping animals? Ask yourself: “What is my purpose?”
By concentrating on something other than yourself, you learn to let go of the pain and move on. Helping others will help you heal.
If you know how to use this wisdom, a broken heart will even help you grow and give vent to your hurting emotions. It is necessary to go through the stages of shock, denial, pain and anger. The next stage will invariably be acceptance. The best way to achieve peace is to search for higher meanings.
Use the pain to grow
If you can use pain to find new meanings in life, you can say to yourself: “Now I control my life. Now everything will change.” Instead of focusing on your reactions, understand that you determine the significance of events and your attitude to life in the light of these events.
One way you can eliminate the pain is by visualizing a brighter future. How do you look at life now? What in the future will you do differently? What can you do differently today?
Remember that if you do not take life into your own hands and do not care for the your future, it will quickly grow weeds, and not "beautiful flowers". But if you learn from your mistakes and adapt to what is happening, you will reach a new level of life, and that would be impossible if it were not for the pain through which you had to go through.
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