The most bitter experience brings the most valuable lessons. Perhaps the foundation of our happiness lies in errors: first, we must have our hearts broken before the real fire is lit in them. Perhaps, we have to suffer a lot in order to to find harmony.
From my own experience I know that unrequited love is the worst form of love, it destroys our soul. These are the relationships for which we give everything that we have only to find out that everything was in vain.
Broken into millions of tiny fragments, we begin to blame ourselves: why did not we notice the red flags from the very beginning?
We are all human, and we all make mistakes. Sometimes we choose people who are not like us, and then desperately try to fix them. Apparently, because they themselves are not ready for real life and must learn more than one lesson.
The most bitter experience brings with it the most valuable lessons.
Probably, you should not use the concept of “mistake”, if it reveals to us who we are, what we love, and what hurts us. Perhaps we are so conceived that our heart first needs to break into pieces in order to prepare us for true love.
And when I talk about a mistake, I mean relationships that were toxic. They should be experienced before they inevitably lead to a deplorable ending and broke our hearts and make us realize certain things.
For unknown reasons, we do not want to let go such people in the beginning. And not because a person seems to fit us perfectly. Perhaps that is how it should happen. So that we are able to find out all the facets of love.
It doesn’t matter how many times we return and try to fix everything - this will not happen. Because it was not destined to be fixed.
This relationship must end. Its goal is to shake us, to bring us to despair, to wake us up ... All in order for us to want to change ourselves and our life for the better.
Healing does not happen overnight. And it will take a lot of time, energy and willpower to heal the wounds. You become stronger so that other disappointments can not destroy you completely.
There is the power in this realization that we can love someone, but, nevertheless, we can keep our heads held high. After all, we know that we are worth much more.
And the love of our whole life is somewhere nearby, waiting for us, and finally, we will meet each other. Healed and ready to live.
And when we meet our true love, we will forget about all doubts, pains, problems and sleepless nights. It will be calm and caring type of love. That kind of love that will show us why all previous relationships ended in failure.
Because everything that we went through, all those failures and pains, have paved the way to the person who is designed specifically for us. True love allows us to be ourselves and reveal the best of us.
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